Fatherhood in 200 Words #16 - Mark

This is the part of our fatherhood series where we asked dads to share a little about themselves, their most prominent memory of their first year of fatherhood, the best parenting advice they have received and a message for dads-to-be. Each answer was limited to 50 words and you find them here unedited and as given.

About:

A few years ago for my 30th I climbed Base Camp Everest. It was pretty fun and epic. I love adventure and like to think I'm a free spirited chap. I have two boys, Matthew Jesse George Tate, who's 7 and Joshua Harry Tate who's 4, they're badasses. I'm married to the lovely Laura who is also a badass.

Prominent memory from first year of fatherhood:

I found my first year of parenthood a shock to the system. It was really hard work and daunting. To be honest there was lots of it I didn't enjoy - the first year has been the hardest for me.

Best fatherhood advice received:

Kids spell love: T.I.M.E. More than anything else kids will crave your attention and time. They will feel valued, build self-esteem and grow in confidence the more time you have for them and it will help your relationship grow with them too.

Message for men expecting their first baby:

Stick at it! I think becoming a dad was one of the best things that ever happened to me and I am glad I am one, even though at first it was a real struggle, it gets easier as time goes on and now I love it.

Fatherhood in 200 Words #7 - Steve

This is part of our fatherhood in 200 words series where we asked dads to share a little about themselves, their most prominent memory of their first year of fatherhood, the best parenting advice they have received and a message for dads-to-be. Each answer was limited to 50 words and you find them here unedited and as given.

About:

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After many years in the Telecoms Industry I’m currently assisting in the sale of a large telecoms projects. I have two sons (14 and 18) and a daughter (22).

Prominent memory from first year of fatherhood:

I remember coming home with our daughter after several days in hospital, placing her in the middle of the lounge in her car seat and thinking “Wow, its just us two and our baby…” and thinking how scary that prospect was. The scariness soon past and we began the exciting task of “Parenting”.

Best fatherhood advice received:

Don’t look at other people’s children wondering why they appear to be perfect when yours are maybe not so well behaved, you don’t know what they are like at home. Its very easy to try and make your children fit a mould, don’t try… let them be themselves and encourage them to be their own character.

Message for men expecting their first baby:

Parenting is something we make up as we go along, hopefully to the best of our ability – other than when we are so tired, or stressed that we don’t quite act the way we would want to - even at those times always try to treat your child the way you would want to be treated (whatever their age or yours).