Fatherhood in 200 Words #9 - Matt

This is part of our fatherhood in 200 words series where we asked dads to share a little about themselves, their most prominent memory of their first year of fatherhood, the best parenting advice they have received and a message for dads-to-be. Each answer was limited to 50 words and you find them here unedited and as given.


I am Dad to three; Pixie (6), Olive (3), Otto (4 months). Husband to one (10 years and counting). Community Gardener. Micro Poet. Coffee Geek. Fantasy Football Fanatic. Trying to slow down, live simply and notice more.

Prominent memory from first year of fatherhood:

Missing New Year '09. At midnight I was inside comforting a 5 day old crying baby whilst everyone else was celebrating around the camp fire. I remember having this deep sense of 'this baby changes everything' and 'I wouldn't want to be anywhere else'. It was a real bonding moment.

Best fatherhood advice received:

Practice Presence. Everyone craves attention, especially children. It doesn't matter what you end up doing together. What matters is regularly giving kids your 100% undivided attention; ditch the devices, forget the to-do list and be fully present to them.

Message for men expecting their first baby:

Get your hands dirty, literally. Sometimes you've just got to man up and get stuck in; change nappies slowly, choose the 'wrong clothes', swaddle them badly, carry them in an unorthodox position, run the bath too cold... learn through doing. And don't be afraid to do some reading...